Last Wednesday I sneaked into Diane Harris’ kindergarten. She asked if I would like to tell a story. I settled myself in her rocking chair and told about the baby born on the Mayflower. He was named Oceanus because he had eyes as blue as the Ocean.
The Pilgrims had a hard year and would not have survived without the help of the Native Americans. To acknowledge this they had a feast of Thanksgiving. The foods we eat at our Thanksgiving help tell the story of that early Potluck Feast where the Native Americans and Pilgrims all brought a dish to share.
A hand went up at the end of the story. As I called on that child, I prepared myself to answer questions about the Mayflower; or the Pilgrims; or the Native Americans; or what it was like to live on Plymouth Rock, but I didn’t see this question coming:
“What do you do if you don’t like the food on Thanksgiving Day, or if you can’t eat it all?”
I hadn’t seen it coming, yet the question clearly made perfect sense to the five year olds sitting before me. The room was quiet. All eyes were on me. They waited for the answer.
Suddenly I saw it from their point of view. Mealtime is often a battlefield for children. It is hard for them to eat what is on their plate on a normal day, so a national holiday where the food is piled on the plate is not good news. They are told over and over that they are going to have lots of stuffing and turkey and mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes and cranberry sauce and several kinds of vegetables. And then (it almost always happens) they are asked if they are excited about it.
What do you do if you don’t like the food or can’t eat it all?
I went out on a limb and told them there would probably be something they didn’t like and something they did. When a grandmother or father or mother or aunt noticed they didn’t eat their, say, brussel sprouts, they should just say, “Oh, I’m too full for those because I love the stuffing so much. It’s delicious.”
I hope it worked at their houses, because it certainly worked at mine.
My daughter in law’s family joined us and there we were: two tribes each bearing food. Like the Native Americans and Pilgrims, we had turkey and cranberries and oysters and squash. I think the children were too full for the Brussels sprouts, but they seemed to love the sparkling cider and the marshmallows on top of the sweet potatoes. We sang. We laughed. We told stories. We feasted.
It turns out it is not the food that makes a holiday special for children. I know it to be true; I learned it in Diane Harris’ kindergarten.

We walked across Central Park to the Metropolitan Museum of Art. The bright light of the November sun brought the yellow leaves that fell around us into brilliant focus. My sister in law, two cousins, and I entered the park’s wilderness known as The Ramble. We knew where we were going, but wondered how and if we would come out in the right place. This required some backtracking, but we got there.
I continued walking. A woman was explaining a Degas painting to children: “Notice how the arm of the dancer repeats the shape of the handle of the watering can that is on the floor. Notice the repetition of pattern.”
Last year I saw Winslow Homer’s Country School at an art gallery in St. Louis; now a poster of the painting hangs in Room 204. That teacher in the one room schoolhouse and I are in the same business. We know that children are not all the same and they don’t all learn at the same rate. Children have different readiness levels and different gifts. They need different approaches to master the material at hand. She knows, as I know, that children can help each other. We are a community of learners. We need each other.
Last week, metaphors tiptoed into Room 204. They snuck into our third grade last Tuesday with Emily Dickinson, honored guest. We were reading one of her poems. Emily Dickinson wrote, “The morns are meeker than they were; the nuts are getting brown.” This is straightforward. But then she tells us, “The maple wears a gayer scarf.” This is less straightforward. We threw on our jackets and set out to find out what our new friend Emily was talking about. On the right October day this is not hard to do. Tuesday was the right October day.
People ask me how I became a storyteller. The question hangs in a split second of expectation: perhaps I know of a book… some little-known home-grown tome of tried and true tips. There are good books on storytelling, I’ve read lots of them, but that is not how I became a storyteller.
John D. Rockefeller gave the money for the University of Chicago to be built. Suddenly, there towered an extraordinarily beautiful university in a field. It looked, with its spires, towers, and cloisters, as though it had stood through time with Cambridge and Oxford and La Sorbonne. Those institutions took centuries to build, but this one was done– just like that. Finished. Complete. And yet… at the dedication someone noticed there were no paths. Had this been an oversight? Could the work be complete without the paths?